Clocked By A “Friend”

I like to think of myself as a spiritual person. A person that believes in God and Jesus Christ and what they both have done for me over the years. But it hurts me to my soul when I see people that hide behind or hide in the pages of a Bible and then tell me how wrong it is for me to be transsexual. To be told by this person that the Bible says a man is a man and a woman is a woman, and that God never makes mistakes. Then I asked what about people that are intersects. He had never heard the term used before, so I explain to him that God truly does not make mistakes but he does make people that are born with both chromosomes, XXY, and with sometimes both sets of partial genitalia. His answer was God knows that there a man or a woman. Then I asked so how was that person to live? If the doctors and or the parents are to determine the gender of the child with surgery and they get it wrong, according to God‘s plan, what then? He had no answer, surprisingly. He went on and spoke about him never being alone whether at work or otherwise with a single female. He also made a comment stating that there might be people that would see him sitting at a table with two other man and a woman and they might think something illicit about it. 

Usually I don’t give people like this any time or space in my head, but this was a man that I thought I had known for over 10 years. We had worked together for many, many hours when I worked for the state of Oklahoma. We had met dozens of times for lunch. He had sent me condolences when my wife passed away. He was partly angry because he thought he knew me, and now he found out that I was something he never ever suspected. Consequently, I heard bile come out of his mouth that he claimed was his religious convictions. All I heard was transphobia, homophobia and misogynistic rhetoric. I saw this man change right before my eyes, I was horrified.